The Best Condom!

Me at two years old..

Two year old Kimberly: *Walks up to stove and proceeds to touch the hot stove*

Parents: "NOOO! Kimberly don't touch it!" *Runs over to stop child*

Me: *Looks at them like their crazy* *Touches hot stove anyways* ....*Starts screaming and crying*

Parents: "Kimberly! We told you not to touch it because we knew you would hurt yourself! Listen to us next time! *Grabs, kiss child's hand, and puts a bandade on scar*

Our heavenly Father is like our parents. When we were younger, we wanted to touch the HOT stove, but our parents said NOOO IT WILL HURT IT and LEAVE SCARS! DO NOT TOUCH! The same applies to God. He tells us to not have sex or any sexual activity outside of marriage in hopes of  protecting us because He cares 1000000000000x more than your earthly parents ever could. He sees the things that could potentially happen to us if we go down that path. He wants to protect us from the scars that will appear due to disobeying Him by having sex outside of marriage.

Safe sex is sex in the confines of marriage. This is the truest form of safe sex. Does a condom protect you from your feelings getting hurt?......Sex is such an interesting topic and our culture is obsessed with it. We are constantly being bombarded with billboards, tv shows, and music that portray sex as this very coveted intimacy between two people.

In our culture, one's virginity, girls and guys, are no longer held to be sacred. Casually sleeping together with individuals has become the new normal and frankly this is very sad and my heart mourns for this generation. Our generation downplays the beauty of sex and just focuses on the physical part. Sex is intended to be physical, mental and spiritual!

People have this pre-conceived notion (I once held this belief) that God hates sex and that He is forbidding me to have fun and enjoy something that is an innate desire of mine. Let's stop right here! THIS IS FALLLLLLSSSSSEEEEE!

You see, what people fail to realize is that God loves sex! I meannnn He created it! It is one of God's most precious gifts that He gave to us humans to enjoy. A whole book of the Bible (Song of Solomon) was dedicated to the erotic passion a married couple experienced within their time of intimacy with eachother. Sex is the combining of two persons so that they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31).

What God does not like and actually hates is premarital sex. He hates EVERYTHING that has to do with sexual immorality outside of marriage. If you have to second guess yourself if a particular sexual act counts as sexual immorality, most likely, 100% it probably is.

"But Kimberly, UGHHHH why does God not want me to have sex now while I am young? I have needs" , you may be saying to yourself. Well..I thought these same things at a point in time. What I have learned over the years and through revelation is that God simply just wants the best for you because you are His beloved child! He advises us not to have sex outside of marriage because He is veryyyy aware of all of the damage it produces when we do it outside of the way He set it up.

Even if you do not necesarrily have physical sex but do other things that would be considered sinful in the sight of God, it still leaves emotional scars and He is aware of the baggage that is left over after the relationship. He is aware of all of the heartache and tears. He is aware of the unhealthy soul ties that were created. He is aware of the countless nights you cried yourself to sleep and how those tears turned into bitterness and hatred. He is aware of the possible diseases that can be contracted. He is aware of the potential children that can come forth out of wed-lock. He is aware of the unnecessary drama and the shame it brings.

 Everything God does is out of complete love. Jesus came to the earth so that we might have life and have it more abundantly; that we might live a life of freedom. God is not about religion. In my opinion He hates religion and rules that constrict us like chains. He wants people to live in His freedom and with His help and guidance, pursue Him with everything they have. That being said, don't get so caught up. If you have fallen into sexual sin or any other sin for that matter, repent, ask God for help and begin a new path!!! God is waiting with open arms!

Even if you are not a virgin or have committed sexual sin, God is more than able and willing to forgive. Regardless of our past, He works EVERYTHING for our good (Romans 8:28). Make a covenant with God today to wait to experience the ultimate joy He has for you and your future husband/wife today. Satan wants to trick you into thinking that having sex out of marriage is A-OK and that it will not hurt you. The lies he tells!!!!! EVERYTHING Satan says is a LIEEE! He tricks us into thinking a condom is safe sex. We must be mindful to read between the lines and realize the trickery that is being played right before our eyes.

Just wait! Patience is a virtue, waiting will never hurt you :) Remember, the safest sex is within marriage and the BEST CONDOM IS MARRIAGE! Jesus loves you unconditionally!

Besos,

KayGodd <3

Drawer Two: Promises

There is a story in the Bible about a man named Abraham. He was a man after God's own heart and God promised to make him the father of many nations. There was one problem, his wife, Sarah was barren, meaning she could have no children.

One would think, how will Abraham become the father of many nations if his wife can't even have children?! Sounds ludicrous to me! However, God promised ! Abraham was even confused saying, " You have given me no children; so a servant in my household will be my heir". And God said,

"This man will not be your heir, but a son coming from your own body will be your heir". He took him outside and said, "Look up at the heavens and count the stars- if indeed you can count them." Then He said to him, "So shall your offspring be."

Abraham believed God and trusted in His promise. When God promises something He means it! Remember that!

God has promised to us ladies that if we are seeking Him first in every aspect of our lives, including our love lives, He will bless us. Having the desire of wanting a husband one day is a praise-worthy desire, but we must WAITTT till God brings HIM to US. Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord". Keyword here ladies, is HE, not us, as in us going to search him out, but HE! Just like Abraham, God has promised us something special and we have to be more than willing to wait and be patient.

Back to the story! Time passes and Sarah, Abraham's wife, reminds him that she can not have children, so she suggest to Abraham to sleep with her servant Hagar, the Egyptian maidservant. He agreed and slept with Hagar. Hagar soon was with child and gave him the name, Ishmael. Sarah began to despise Hagar because of what was done.

However, Ishmael was not the child that God had promised Abraham. God's covenant with Abraham would not be fulfilled through his son Ishmael. God soon opened Sarah's womb and she gave birth to Isaac, whom the promise would manifest through.

As Isaac grew, things between Sarah, Hagar, and Ishmael were becoming shaky. Sarah was over this living arrangement and wanted Hagar and Ishmael gone pronto and this broke Abraham's heart because Ishmael was his son as well. However being obedient to God, Abraham sent Hagar and Ishmael away into the wilderness.

You see the promise from God was going to be fulfilled through Isaac and not Ishmael. If Ishmael would have stayed, who knows what drama would have started because of that!

We all have our Ishmaels ladies. What do I mean by this? Ishmaels are those guys we date thinking they are our Isaac. We date them for various reasons (including me) like, to fill voids, to feel accepted, to feel loved/cherished/appreciated,etc but the wholetime we know we should not be with them. We would rather listen to our flesh as opposed to what God wants. Ishmael was born out of the flesh and Isaac was born out of the spirit.

Sometimes our Ishmaels look like they could turn into our Isaac's eventually if we just give it time. Did that work for Abraham? I think not! God said the promise would not be fulfilled through Ishmael, but rather Isaac! So stop dating these randoms; they only add drama to your life. Abraham witnessed this drama within his own household and he suffered the consequences of having to force his own son to leave his house. The same applies to us when we have to break up with the random. It only leaves us with pain. But just like Abraham, we have to be willing to be obedient by cutting off those Ishmaels and trusting that God will bring our Isaac to us in the future.

So why don't we just wait, instead of doing what Abraham did and trying to pull a fast one on God? Why don't we just wait for our Isaac and stop dating these counterfeit Ishmaels? I'd rather wait for my promise from God, instead of creating my own promise. So what I have decided to do is chill, seek God and rest in the promises of Him. Care to join me?

Besos,

Kay Godd <3

Drawer One: Taking the Role of the Passenger

Beep Beep Beep Beep goes my alarm. "Its 7:45, nooooo!!", I thought to myself.

My eyes flashed open and my heart beat fast to the rhythm of the vibration of the cellphone alarm.

As I lied in my bed for another couple of minutes with the alarm still buzzing off, I thought to myself, "What did I do yesterday and why do I feel so empty inside ?” After some minutes of contemplation, I groggily turned over to turn off the obnoxious reminder that it was in fact 7:45 in the morning and it was time for me to wake up and prepare for my Winter class yet another day.

I typed my password into my phone and went straight to the Bible Application. Up popped the verse of the day, Mark 8:34,35:

   
"Then calling the crowd to join his disciples, he said, "If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake and for the sake of the Good News, you will save it." NTL

Yesterday afternoon, my boyfriend and I broke up. If you have ever been in a relationship before and you all are no longer together, you may understand what I am experiencing right now; a whole lot of confusion, mixed with sadness, and a basket full of unanswered questions. Today as I was in class, all I could think about was ,Why God? Why God, in the sense of, why was he not the one for me and why in the world did You tell me end it? Everything in my eyes was great!

Let me tell you a little about my ex-boyfriend. Sounds kind of strange me saying that now, mehh, but lets begin. In my eyes, he was everything. He was smart, kind, respectful and pretty much had it going on. I thought for SURREEEE he was the man of my dreams. However, even in the beginning of our relationship, I felt this almost nagging feeling or a better way to put it, I felt this pit in my stomach and it would not go away , no matter how much I tried. I did my best to get rid of this feeling for a couple of months, but the feeling did not cease. Instead the feeling magnified.

I won’t bore you with the gruesome details, maybe in another post, however long story short I knew that, that feeling I was experiencing was from the Holy Spirit telling me to break off the relationship.

How many of you all have ever bargained with God? What I mean by that is that you are like, Ok God, if you do this ____, then I’ll do this___. Well yeah, I have been playing this little game with God since my ex-boyfriend and I got together. As I prayed, I told God, God, if you don’t want me to be with him, then show me today , or tomorrow, or next week in some way and make it blatant. So God, probably laughing at me because He knew my intentions were not so pure, gave me more signs than I could possibly image. However, I chose to ignore them because I made myself believe they were all coincidental. HOW IGNORANT! I so badly wanted to be with him and I wanted God to agree with me SO BADLY! However, I knew He did not.

In the Message version of Mark 8:34-37, it reads,

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"Calling the crowd to join his disciples, he said, “Anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead. You’re not in the driver’s seat; I am. Don’t run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I’ll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to saving yourself, your true self. What good would it do to get everything you want and lose you, the real you? What could you ever trade your soul for?”

After reading that, I still have the same reaction that I had when I first read it. WOWWW! So you mean to tell me, if I want Jesus in my life and claim to want to follow His will, I have to let Him lead? Lead in every situation? Including my romance life? Romance/Dating, being one of the most important and scariest portions of my life, your telling me that I  need to let You lead and that I am in the passenger’s seat just along for the ride? UGHHHHHHH! That’s how I feel, still. UHHHHHHHGGGGGGGG!

I love it when it says in the NTL version , "you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross and follow me." This one sentence alone made my stomach sink early this morning at 7:45am. I knew exactly, well at least part of the reason why I had to break up with my boyfriend. I needed to turn away from my selfish ways and ambitions because my eyes were not focused on Jesus! Jesus was telling me, (my personal translation)  “Yooo wake up! I am trying to save you from yourself and your own selfish desires! Give up your life to me and you will gain it all!”

I would be lying to you all if I said I was really happy about the breakup and that I am feeling great. This is farrrrrrr from the truth. I am still hurt and I may be feeling this way for awhile. Am I disappointed? YOU BET!!! However, despite my feelings and selfish ways, I would rather let Jesus lead and guide me in my love life. Why? Well because He has already prepared the way for me and knows exactly what I need and when I need it. TIMING IS EVERYTHING (Girllluhh that’s another blog post in and of itself lol) but really and truly I believe that. I believe that God knew from the start that I WAS NOT suppose to be with him and wanted to save me from all of the heartache that I am experiencing right now, hence Him sending the Holy Spirit to keep pricking and prodding at my heart day after day.

So what does this mean for me and you? This means that we should take a step back and analyze with God what has happened and what you gleaned from this experience. Do I regret being with him? Absolutely not! I learned so much , however was me being with him apart of God’s plan for me? I like to think it was not, but God always works everything for my good, even in my mess (Romans 8:28). That being said, I have taken time to ask God for His forgiveness in disobeying Him, when I knew clearly it was God telling me to not be with him. Cry for a little bit (it's very ok to cry, let it out girl!) but get up in the morning and start a new day with God! This is a glorious life that God has given you so don’t spend to much time sulking (preaching to myself at this very moment lol).

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Psalm 30:5 “Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning.”

So pick your head up princess, your tiara is slipping a little. You are a princess of the King and He loves you dearly, so don’t give up on Him. He adores YOU!!!! Trust Him with your life. Trust that He has the perfect man for you, just wait and be patient. And let me reemphasize, WAITTTTT for God to bring HIM to you . In the meantime, I am letting go the reigns of my love life and taking the role of the passenger. Care to join me?

Besos,

Kay Godd <3